From an ice cube to an ice cube

How is it that an ice cube in the glass starts to melt due to heat of the ambience, when put back in the freezer in it's cozy, comfort zone...immediate starts to judge the other cubes in glasses to be weak in handling the heat...

At that moment the discussions of pain are too long hence should be cut off immediate....unlike when the cube itself was bearing the beat of the temperature wanted hours of discussion time from friends....

The judgmental powers suddenly activate and are at their best of ability...

How the same harsh judgment on someone is expected to be compassionate, sympathetic love when it comes on self....

BEING IN OTHERS SHOES!! Do we stop doing that when our shoes start to get comfortable.....was the phrase only when our shoes are hurting....

Reality or Denial?

With a friend after loads of convincing from her end, I enter the most exotic party down town. Its her cousin’s birthday bash!

More than a bash, its relatives from all over the town, hence I was pulled in as the savior...

The obvious conversations about birthday wishes very soon took over talks of cancer she is going through.

Looking at her, you wouldn’t believe there is any bug of the dreaded poison in her, as she does more in a day than I do in a week’s time...

Work-MBA-Dance-Horse Riding-Cookery...

To top it all, she is very HAPPY!

But we forget, part time job of the world is to make us UNHAPPY...

Like employees of the devil, due for appraisals, everyone at their best, the only topic anyone could talk was about her cancer...

One of my sharp edged answers to the devils, bounce back this to me – “Today’s generation loves to live in denial, all we are doing is making the girl strong for the final day.”

I agree, they are preparing the girl for the final day, and I must say, are doing a great job, making her live it everyminute!

This made me wonder, the amount of trauma world has gone through, has it made being HAPPY more denial than reality?

Is it that we no more can enjoy, without someone trying to kill it...

 

Its best to live in reality, but if living in reality is living in pain, denial becomes reality...

How about, someone has carved their reality like the small apartments we live in, where there is no space for more than one emotion, and s/he selects happiness over sorrow to stay within.

Yet why do world’s devil try to keep pushing in stuff because others have it, when there is no room for any other closet inside?

Inner Conflict - I

You are totally committed to reaching the goal, you also have the tools, you know what you want – YET, never reach there....

I want to have total free time to myself, but earn a billion dollars...

I want to win an award in classical singing, but never commit to daily practice...

I want my team-mate to take all the responsibilities but not the respect and power I have...

The fun part, you want both ends of the world but never reach even close to one.

The INNER CONFLICT!

How would you achieve even a morsel when you are being pulled in two different directions...

...WHY, WHY do you want this...

Is it because your girlfriend told you, hence you want to lose weight?

Is it because your dad wanted you to be a great musician, hence that’s your goal  but lack the love for music?

You may even achieve this, and there would be success but not fulfillment, and success without fulfillment is failure!

Get rid of the inner conflict, once that is clear, then there is no delay in the action, as the action is now for what you want and not someone else’s needs.

AS THEN THERE WOULD BE NOTHING PULLING YOU AWAY!

Magnets

There are two magnets, Spole and Npole!

They work as a great team, always together, no matter what the obstacles still will remain one...

That’s the story of the external image they carry, but from within...

Spole constantly bothered Npole to change...everything about Npole seemed incorrect...

Secretly praying that he was never with N property....because N is not like him, HENCE NOT GOOD.

Npole on other end wished that Spole was never stuck to him because he doesn’t have the N properties....

They vigorously find ways to make the other one as themselves...

Also, continue blaming the circumstances for bringing them together, which is the reason they are not with the match of similar properties...

BUT! They forget that both are together because of the properties within them selves, NoT the circumstances, NoT the other pole...

If each became the replica of the other, an awesome job is done, a job of conceiving Great Match – BUT, for someone else!

So lets stop working on our next door neighbor, friend, colleague, spouse. Instead enjoy their unique properties, as it is what you lack in yourself!

Hand behind your success...

As they say, “There is always a strong hand behind every successful project” , though I believe a hand behind the project which is in midst of the ocean, top of the wave looking over the next; just like being pushed off a hill on a brakeless bike....needs a hand with much more horsepower.

Stars in the day, sweat dripping off the forehead, butterflies in stomach, trembling of legs....

Each one of us have gone through some situation like this, be it because of love, boss, family, friends....some go through it just because they enjoy living in constant tension...☺☺

Whatever be the reason, each one of us have that strong hand behind, wherein we know just a phone call and without any judgments passed, that hand would show the strength of getting 5 delicate fingers together and punch the situation in its face.

But unfortunately closeness is inversely proportional to appreciation...

The person who shows you the scattered millions of lines on your hand when brought together can hit the situation such that it could create lines of success on its FACE!

But we more than often forget to appreciate that pillar...Today, I would like to thank mine...

PS: Dedicated to Aditi... 

Perfect

The sun is too harsh on my beautiful wings, I do not think I should be getting out to have nectar from the flowers anymore...

The rain water these days has more of pollution than rain, I do not think I should fill up anymore...

The foreigners this season are less, I do not think I should send breeze to the Goan ground anymore...

Do these sound familiar......NO!

Not to me, because no matter what; the butterfly never fails to collect nectar from the flowers, the lakes never seize to fill in rain water, the breeze still blows our mind out (specially if its Goan breeze☺).

Then,

how is it that a job not including dishes from my dream menu...I quit!

how is it that a lover who does not express the love as per my dream menu....I quit!

how is it that a parent not reacting as per my dream menu...I quit!

I admit it is tempting to wish for the perfect job, perfect lover, perfect parent, perfect outfit...but maybe the best we can do is not QUIT and ACCESSORIZE to our best ability of what we’ve got.

One should always remember, there is nothing in milk which turns over night into your favorite ice cream...one needs to accessorize it with sugar, cream, eggs, flavor to fit it perfect  as per the dream menu.

The Coffee Table...

Two hot cappuccinos, sachets of sugar, two cute  spoons....One table, two personnel...Yes the coffee shop I was at yesterday!

Hours of conversation, then the walk back home....made me wonder – the two entities that heard me talk,  was the person on the other side of the table and the table itself...

Out of which I have full confidence in both that the discussion won’t leak out...One because I trust enough and the other because, it can’t.

Still the thought, what is the probability of the conversation reaching someone’s ears with added spice....Am sure the table is not the one who can do this!

Is it that the closest of people we have in life need to be kept a little away from the truth so that in their weak moments, the details don’t go out...

OR is it good to be like tables....without emotions, without break down points, without passion; so no scare of leaking out???

Imagine what would life be then....

Its good to have some trust mixed with a pinch of mistrust THAN no trust at all...

Its good to have some sweet emotions mixed with a pinch of rudeness THAN no emotions at all....

Its good to have brain storming intellectual conversations with a pinch of nonsense talk THAN no talks at all...

Its good to have sweet romance with a pinch of aloofness THAN no romance at all...

Its good to have a passionate person with a pinch of mood swings THAN no passion at all...

I rather talk to a person and live with a percent of doubt for details slipping out than talk to a table....with whom you have 100% assurity but 0% percent involvement...